Sunday, October 28, 2012

My Baby Brother

 
Can you believe this is my baby brother.  How time flies.  He is all grown up and graduating from high school.  Joey asked me to take his senior pictures.  Here are my favorites, but of course they are not his favorites.  But he doesn't have to know :) 





















What do you think?  I think it's hard to take a bad picture when you are a good looking kid.  Way to kill it, Joe. 

Wedding Time

My cousin Amy was married in Rockville, IN earlier this month and had her reception at Turkey Run.  It was a sweet beautiful wedding and reception.

 
Here is the blushing bride.  Isn't she gorgeous!
Isn't she gorgeous!
Here is a very abstract photo of the beautiful ring.
Here is the party crew after the party.

Timeless.

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Mom Guilt

So, apparently I suck at being a mom.  I can't stop messing up and I keep hurting the ones I love.  But here is my frustration with this because I am so sick and tired of being mad at myself all the time and feeling like the worst mom in the world.  Really, I would love to feel like a normal mom who sometimes gets mad, but the truth is that no one will admit that that is normal, so then I feel even more like crap for wanting to think that it is normal.  Anyone else can go to work all day, everyday and occasionally make mistakes at their nine to five jobs and we say "it's ok, it happens to everyone once and a while."  Well, my job is taking care of my family twenty-four/seven.  There are little to no brakes.  And when I mess up on the "job" I feel criticized for it.  The worst critic is always myself, of course, because first I know I should have handled things better, second, I wish someone knew where I was coming from and why can't I get any sympathy but all the sympathy goes to the kid...and third, I feel incredibly guilty for even wanting to make it about myself.  It is a vicious cycle of loathing.   Seriously, I'm mad that there is no break for good moms who are afraid of being bad moms because one bad night and there is self-loathing and criticism for not being better.

Oh and here is the other delightful twist to motherhood...our job as mothers is to make our children's  lives wonderful and enriching every moment of everyday right.  So if we are the cause of any grief or if we disrupt their world because we "mess up on the job" then how dare we.

And let's not even mention the web of guilt that comes with receiving help.  If I can't handle my own kids and someone steps in I feel one of three things, or all three at once-first, I feel the guilt of not being able to handle my own children, then I feel guilty that someone else feels they 'must' come rescue me or the kids.  Second, if I interpret their help as judgement and I dismiss it I feel guilt.  Third, if they honestly want to help then I feel I must owe them, which leads to more guilt.

Can I just say that there is an intense pressure on moms everywhere trying to be good, but particularly as a Mormon mom, I feel like there is no room for error.  There is no excuse for "messing up on the job" because I am given all of the training tools.

So basically:
If I mess up I feel guilt.
If I make my kids cry I feel guilt.
If I think of myself I feel guilt.
If I want a break I feel guilt.
If I someone has to help me I feel guilt.
If I don't accept help I feel guilt.
If I get mad I feel guilt.
If I am not thanking Heavenly Father every second of the day I feel guilt.
If I don't use the correct discipline program I feel guilt.
I feel guilt just typing this blog.

Motherhood is a very lonely job these days.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Pizza Night

We needed a family activity for FHE so we made our own pizzas.  Ruby doesn't like pepperonis, but they were fun to put on her pizza.  He just had to remove them later.

I ended up making Anna's because all she wanted to do was eat the cheese straight out the bag.  Oh, my bad, she did put at least two strands of cheese on there.


Love my girls!

Monday, October 1, 2012

The Evolution of David

Here is our Little Man, David Lorenzo.  Isn't he cute. 
Only a week or two old.  I just had to share a picture of the post bathtime fuzz.

Getting the hang of the bouncy seat. 

That's my man in his first sweater vest.

And here is our Little Man at almost two months.  He is growing like crazy and he just loves to take it all in. 
Just don't put a bow on his head like I did.  He's not havin' it.

My Girls

Here are some everyday pictures of our girls.  Aren't they beautiful!


Ruby loves being a little mother.  She just thought she needed to work on her swaddling skills.